Bride looking at her phone (stock image).Photo:Evgeniy Fedorcov/Getty
Evgeniy Fedorcov/Getty
A bride says she’s feeling hurt after her friend “flaked” on her wedding and then ghosted her.
With her wedding approaching, he had RVSPed “yes” and even messaged her two days before the event to express his excitement about celebrating with the bride and groom, with whom he is also friends.
But then when the big day arrived, he was “a no show,” the bride said. “No message, no call, no nothing. He wasn’t there,” she wrote.
And since then, he has stopped all contact with the bride. “He still hasn’t messaged me, but I see him posting all the time,” she noted.
Now, she explained, she can’t help feeling “sad” and wondering why he never said anything about not attending the wedding. “If he had said it was too expensive or that something had come up, then it’s fine, I understand. But NOTHING?” she wrote, adding, “I’m quite hurt.”
Upset bride (stock image).Tomaz Levstek/Getty
Tomaz Levstek/Getty
“Am I being a diva about this? What do you guys think?” she concluded her post, seeing advice from fellow Redditors.
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“I would text him and ask what happened. Add that you missed him and hope everything is ok,” one user wrote. “Perhaps something came up last minute and he’s embarrassed. If this was out of character and he’s a good friend, he’ll let you know.”
Bride and groom (stock image).Docinets Vasil/Getty
Docinets Vasil/Getty
Others wondered if he simply got the wedding date wrong and is unaware of his faux pas. “Even if he’s posting, maybe something happened or he got his days mixed up. Tell him you really missed him and he had mentioned how excited he was and you wanted to see if everything is okay,” one person commented.
A few Redditors took a harsher stance, telling the bride to be done with the friendship.
“Sorry, but I would just block and ignore him. He did it to you in a very visible way, there is NO excuse,” one commenter wrote. “You see him post so you know he is around and yet he could not even reach out to say ‘I’m sorry.’ Time to grow up and move on.”
“I’ll give him a day or two and then CYA (husband says to send him an invoice lol),” she wrote.
“But it makes me sad, I’m not going to lie,” she added.
source: people.com
