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A woman is strongly considering skipping her mother’s wedding.
The bride’s daughter explained in aposton Reddit’s popular “Am I the A——” forum that she doesn’t want to go to the nuptials in June because she disapproves of the groom. The bride and groom, both 58, have been in a relationship for four years, and the Redditor, 28, dislikes her mother’s fiancé more and more with each passing year.
“For one, he is a negative person,” she wrote. “And it’s not [that] he doesn’t like something, it’s that he will make sure that no one else can enjoy it either.”
She explained that the groom has mistreated food service workers and has had public outbursts. For example, he disliked a cannoli from an expensive Italian restaurant so he “made a big deal.”
“I was super embarrassed to be in public with someone treating the wait staff poorly just because he didn’t like the food. He ruined the vibe of the night. He could have just left it on the table and walked off, but he made a scene.”
She’s now worried about going out in public with him because she’s afraid “he’ll cause a scene.”
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The groom is not only mean in person, but also rude online. After the OP and her mother called attention to his behavior, he emphasized to the women that “no one can tell him what he can and cannot say.”
“I think he cares more about hating people he disagrees with than his relationship with me,” the bride’s daughter said.
Even though her mother has expressed “doubts” about her relationship with the man “because his behavior has made her life harder,” she is still set on tying the knot with him.
“My sister has previously blocked him out of her life, and my mom for defending his behavior,” she added. “I think my mom realizes that he’s a tough and divisive person to be around and that will be a con of marrying him because some people just don’t want to deal with it.”
The bride’s daughter is now considering blocking her soon-to-be father-in-law and telling her mother that she will not be attending her wedding.
“I think he’s an a—— and I don’t want him in my life,” she said.
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“You need to decide how your relationship with your mom going forward is going to be,” one person commented in part. “If they get married, they are going to be a package deal. You may not be able to cut him out of your life without cutting her (or limiting) out as well.”
Another Redditor said that the poster needs to ignore hypotheticals and opinions other than her own.
“It would be a mistake to substitute your brother’s judgment for your own, as it would to make this important decision on the basis of something that may happen in the future,” they said. “Decide what is right for you, then act accordingly.”
source: people.com
