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A 24-year-old wedding guest — whose fiancé proposed to her on Christmas Eve just days before they attended her childhood family friend’s wedding together — is being called out online for not hiding her engagement ring and taking attention away from the bride.
She explained that she and her 25-year-old partner were waiting to announce their engagement until after they received photos from an upcoming maternity shoot.
By the time they attended the wedding, the couple had told only a few close relatives and friends. They hadn’t informed the bride or the groom.
“[The bride was] not one of the people who was aware of my engagement, and the majority of guests were family members and friends I had known for a long time, but were not in the inner circle of people we had told,” the bride-to-be wrote. “So, whenever I went up to chat to them, they would notice the ring and congratulate me and my fiance on our engagement.”
At one point, a group gathered around her to celebrate the news.
“I felt pretty bad that the attention wasn’t on the bride so once that group cleared I took the ring off and placed it in my clutch for the rest of the night,” she continued, conceding that “the damage was done” at that point, with people continually congratulating her throughout the night even after she hid the ring.
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“By the time I got to the bride to congratulate her and celebrate her marriage with her she was really upset with me, basically telling me that it was so selfish of me to flaunt my engagement at her wedding, and she accused me of purposely taking the limelight off her,” she added. “She thought I had purposely kept my engagement secret for the sole purpose of revealing it at her wedding, and accused me of being a liar when I explained myself.”
Thetop-voted comment, with more than 8,000 upvotes, noted that she took off the ring only when she “got enough attention” from other guests. “If you didn’t want people to know, you wouldn’t have worn it,” the user wrote, ending his comment with “YTA,” meaning “you are the a——,” for short.
“This isn’t quite on the level of getting engaged at the wedding, but you’re still an AH for this,”another user wrote. “If the news wasn’t public, you should have waited and not worn the ring at all."
source: people.com
