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A bride is wondering if it would be “rude” to make her fiancé pay a larger share of their wedding costs because his guest list is bigger.
In a post onReddit’s “Wedding” forum, the bride explained that she is only inviting her immediate family members to the nuptials, while the groom wants to invite his entire extended family.
The bride’s portion of the guest list numbers 20 people “maximum,” while her fiancé plans to send wedding invites to at least 100 people.
“Would it be rude to ask him to cover a larger portion of the cost because he has more than 4x the amount of people I do, or should I just suck it up?” she asked fellow Redditors.
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" ‘You eat more than me so you pay more for groceries,’ ‘My showers are 4 minutes and yours are 8 minutes,’ ‘You turned the heat on when I wasn’t that cold so you should pay more,’ ‘We went on holiday to your family so you pay for that trip,’ " one person wrote. “All ridiculous. Get on the same page financially before you get married.”
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Another commenter agreed, writing, “This should be part of a greater discussion about budgeting for the wedding and general method of sharing of finances for household expenses. This is just the beginning as a married couple.”
A third person chimed in: “Giant red flag 🚩 on going into a marriage this way. This is a ‘together’ event, so your joint finances should be funding it and no one should be keeping tabs on who’s paying what.”
Yet another commenter accused the bride of being “petty” about the guest list situation.
“You both decide what kind of wedding you want. Budget should be a joint decision. This whole his guests, my guests, seems a little petty,” they wrote. “Not everyone has the same amount of family and close friends. If you both decided on 120 guests, then suck it up. It’s called compromise.”
Someone else pointed out, “By the end of the day they will be your family too, I can’t imagine having this kind of mindset when it comes to planning a wedding with someone you supposedly want to spend the rest of your life with.”
source: people.com
