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A newlywed woman “can’t stop focusing on what went wrong” on her wedding day.
Even though her family and friends loved her wedding, the bride explained in aposton Reddit’s “Wedding” forum that she reflects negatively on it. Her big day wasn’t the celebration she envisioned because her mother “bullied” her into listening to a wedding planner who made every decision for her.
She emphasized: “I knew what was best and what I wanted, but nobody listened to me.”
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Issues arose even before the wedding. The date was set on a Sunday and the location was not a temple. The bride’s “very Mormon” mother immediately “hated” this decision because The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints (LDS) members traditionally have temple marriages.
“[It] is ‘embarrassing for good parents’ she’s always said,” the bride notes of her mother, who made “a passive aggressive comment” in her toast at the wedding reception that she’s glad her daughter “finally found someone who can put up with” her.
To make matters worse, many invitees skipped the celebration entirely.
“Even though we had a ton of RSVPs yes, more than half didn’t show with no explanation,” the bride continues.
Due to poor scheduling and planning on the wedding coordinator’s part, “nobody danced” at the wedding.
“I told my mom I was bothered with how people behaved and she told me that’s what happens when I try to go too big with things people don’t really care about,” the poster wrote.
The bride also noted that even though her mother wasn’t compassionate about her concerns, she complained that “the coordinator was trying to do the mother’s job of wedding management.”
Activities after the wedding didn’t improve. The poster’s parents previously volunteered to help out with post-wedding responsibilities, which included returning decor rentals. But because they were “too tired to do it after putting on the entire wedding,” they backed out and made the newlyweds do it the next day. This forced them to leave their hotel and drive back to their venue, which was more than an hour and a half away.
“We got our wedding photos back two weeks ago (a month after) and I can’t bring myself to look because I honestly feel low-key traumatized from it all,” the bride admitted.
Since her wedding, the poster has “had trouble working through it.” She has been “overwhelmed” with all of the aspects that make her “sad from it.”
“I planned it out so intricately and wish I had stood my ground and had more support from family rather than being told to change everything and blamed for it not working later,” she said.
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“The only important thing about that day is you made a covenant with someone you love, and it’s up to you to begin being happy with your spouse. Please, try to put the pain behind you,” one commenter wrote in part. “Focus on building a beautiful FUTURE with your spouse. There’s nothing you can do to change the past, and there’s no sense in wallowing in the sorrow.”
source: people.com
