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A bride was shocked after her brother’s fiancée told her she’s wearing a white dress to her wedding.
In a post on Reddit’s popular"Am I the A——?" forum, the bride explained that she was “a little taken aback” when her brother’s fiancée showed her a picture of the “perfect dress” she plans on wearing at her upcoming nuptials.
“It was a full-on white gown. Not off-white or cream — straight-up bridal white,” the poster wrote.
The bride, 27, and groom, 28, are getting married in March, and are keeping their wedding “fairly traditional.” In their culture, it’s traditional for only the bride to wear white, and seen as tacky or distasteful for other women to do so. But the brother’s fiancée, 25, didn’t seem to get this memo.
The stunned bride immediately said, “I don’t think that’ll work.”
“‘Brides usually wear white, and it might confuse people,’ " she told her brother’s girlfriend, who “kind of laughed it off,” and replied, “‘It’s fine, I’m not trying to upstage you or anything. I just love how I look in white.’ "
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Despite the bride’s protests and pleas that she find another dress, the woman was insistent that she wear a white gown too.
“She brushed me off and said, ‘It’s your day, no one’s going to mistake me for the bride,’ " the bride recalled.
When the issue was brought up to her brother, he “got defensive” and told his sister that she was “making a big deal out of nothing” and that his fiancée was “just being herself.”
“He also accused me of being insecure if I think people will actually think she’s the bride,” added the poster, who says she’s been looking forward to her wedding day for years.
Even though her fiancé and mother have taken her side, the bride is “honestly upset” and unsure of what to do.
“I don’t want a confrontation, but I feel like it’s common knowledge not to wear white to a wedding unless you’re the bride,” she said, noting that her brother and his fiancée are acting as if she’s being “a control freak.”
She “nicely” approached the woman again but stood her ground this time.
“I told [her] that she’s welcome to come in any other color, but wearing white is a no-go,” the bride said. “She rolled her eyes and said she didn’t understand why I was being so ‘uptight’ about it.”
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“It’s basic wedding etiquette not to wear white unless you’re the bride,” the top comment reads. “Her refusal to respect that is rude and attention-seeking, no matter how much she ‘loves how she looks in white.’ You’re not being a control freak; you’re asking for a very reasonable boundary on your wedding day. If she can’t respect that, that’s on her, not you.”
Other Redditors pointed out that the brother’s fiancée will have an opportunity to wear a white dress soon enough because she’s engaged too, and that she can wait her turn.
Another person commented: “[She’s] being rude and dismissive. OP (original poster) politely asked her to respect a simple and well-understood boundary. It’s not about insecurity, it’s about basic respect for OP and the occasion.”
source: people.com
