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A bride says she is not planning to invite her stepsister to her upcoming wedding because she once had a “crush” on her fiancé and now appears to be meddling in their relationship.
When the bride and her now-fiancé, 24, began dating in 2022, she didn’t have “a great relationship” with her family — as she believed they “enabled [her stepsister’s] entitlement” — but she started spending more time with them again. In an awkward twist, her stepsister once had a “crush” on her fiancé when he was 12 and she was 15. “Her crush never went anywhere,” the bride noted, before sharing how her stepsister began to interfere.
“She told all of our family members that my fiancé was only with me to get to her/he wasn’t in love with me/etc.,” she wrote, adding, “She also did this in 2020 with my ex, and tried getting with him after our breakup.”
Amid it all, the bride said, “my family never took my side on anything and continued to blame me for her actions, telling me not to engage.” When her fiancé chose not to invite the stepsister to the surprise birthday party he threw for her last year, the stepsister “threw a tantrum” and the bride’s parents proceeded to give her “the silent treatment.”
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Now, the bride and her fiancé are in the midst of planning a “small and intimate” wedding with just 50 people — and the guest list will not include the stepsister.
“I recently spoke with my mom and informed her that I will not be inviting my stepsister to the wedding because I don’t want to deal with the stress of her making my day about her,” the bride explained.
Her mom didn’t take the news well and told her that it “wouldn’t be fair” since her other stepsisters are invited and that “there will be drama to follow (as there always is with her not getting her way).”
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“Your stepsister sounds insufferable, your mom seems to completely enable it,” one person wrote, while another said, “From the sound of things, don’t invite yo mama either 😂.”
Others took the stance of “your wedding, your rules,” encouraging the bride to do whatever will make her happy on her big day. “Invite only the ones that will make it memorable, don’t feel obligated to invite toxic people who will spoil it,” one commenter said.
“You don’t have to invite anyone you don’t want there,” another Redditor agreed. “These are once-in-a-lifetime memories, and you don’t need to have people who actively disrespect you there. They’ll cause a scene. Mom needs to understand that sometimes being the peacemaker means understanding that peace can also come from having these people out of your life.”
source: people.com
