Macaulay Culkin and Brenda Song.Photo: Kevin Mazur/Getty
Brenda Songis getting candid about her adjustment to becoming a mother.
The actress admitted that though she and Culkin, 41, are “very hands-on” parents without a nanny, she’s glad she had a strong support system as she navigates her “fourth trimester.”
“My fiancé and I are very hands-on. We don’t have a nanny, but my mom has been here with us since my son was born… When I was working, my mom would bring [my son] to set so I could breastfeed and see him during the day. People tell you a lot about labor and pregnancy, but not about the fourth trimester,” Song told the outlet. “To my girlfriends that are pregnant I say, make sure you have help. Because your instinct is to want to do it all and you physically can’t.”
“I think when you and your partner have kids, especially the first few months, you don’t have the patience to be polite with each other,” she added. “Being communicative when you need help is so important. Instead of having set duties, we just feel each other out. I’ll be putting my son down and my partner is like, ‘Let me feed the animals and get dinner ready.’ "
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“I had no idea what I was doing. I went back to work so early. It was harder than I thought,” Song explained. “I pride myself on always being first on set. So to be like, ‘Hey, I need 20 minutes to pump,’ was difficult.”
“The hours away from my son took a toll on me. Learning my own boundaries while trying to take care of my son and my family — that was hard. But I had a great support system and knew my son was taken care of; I just had FOMO,” she continued.
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“Missing those hours with my newborn son, it pains me, but at the end of the day, Mama’s got to put food on the table,” Song said during the interview. “You’ve got to make those sacrifices. Hopefully he’ll understand.”
Culkin and Song met on the set of their movieChangelandin Thailand and were first romantically linked when they werespotted out in July 2017grabbing dinner at Craig’s, an Italian restaurant in Los Angeles.
While the two actors are notable stars, they’ve kept their relationship relatively private on social media. The couple welcomed their first child, sonDakota Song Culkin, on April 5, 2021 and theirengagementwas revealed last week.
“Macaulay and Brenda have loved being together as a family since welcoming Dakota,” a source told PEOPLE. “The engagement is the natural next step for them. They are excited for their future together.”
source: people.com
